I have been visiting my mother for an “early Mother’s Day” celebration and she and I spent an evening reminiscing about all of the advice she has given me over the years. The funny thing is that I often catch myself talking to my own children, and even my patients, and say, “I am sounding just like my mother”. The reason being is that she has given me a lot of good advice.
The best advice which has stood the test of time is “do the best that you can and you can be anything you want.” Both she and my dad told me that, while they continued to support me as I pursued a career in medicine. Boy, was I lucky or what?
She also told me “you should also always be able to take care of yourself.” That has also been great advice and something I have told my own children. The good news for me is that my children have listened to me (to date) and I am so proud of their work ethic, their integrity and their goals. They have made it easy to parent them.
Another good piece of advice remains as true today as it did 40 years ago; “never chase a boy (they always had to call first) and all of your dates must come to the door to meet your parents.” As a mother of sons, I told my boys how important it is to go to the door, make eye contact with the girl’s parents, introduce themselves, and to let the parent know that they are responsible gentleman and will always respect their daughter. This advice is timeless. I saw it first hand when our oldest son went to ask his now father-in-law for his daughter’s hand in marriage. It made me so proud to hear how responsible and respectful he had been. (He listened!)
Here are a few more “Jeanne-isms” worth remembering:
-No white shoes before Easter or after Labor Day
-Stand up straight and hold your shoulders back
-If you can’t say something nice, don’t say it at all
I know you too have memories of wonderful mothers’ advice worth sharing. Keep passing them on to your children. Many are timeless, no matter what we used to think.
Happy Mother’s Day to all!